Happy Ending

Happy Ending is my take on ‘moving on’ and what one should do if he or she is suffering from a broken relationship.

My head says” who cares??” but my heart whispers.” You do …stupid…”

This is what happens after a break up if one person in the relation just doesn’t want to break up and just cannot let go off that person he /she loved at one time. Forgetting relationships is not like changing a shirt and throwing it in a thrash…it should never be that casual but if it’s happening to us we should take help to cure it just as we do when we have a wound which is unhealed on its own.

It’s painful to say goodbye to someone that you don’t want to let go. But, it is more painful to ask someone to stay if you know they really want to go. The people who are quick to walk away are the ones who never intended to stay. We all suffer from all this and often know the pain it brings with it but it’s high time for us to do something about it and that’s why here is my small effort to share my feelings about ‘moving on’.

There may be many ‘to do lists’ or guides on what must be done if someone is in this situation and what are the obvious things to do. Everyone is different and everyone’s capacity of taking things is different but if someone asks me what we should do in such situations I have some answers:

1.Talk it out

Yes, this is the most simple and effective thing one can do. Just talk it out so much that it just fades off your chest. Talk it to everyone who matters friends, family or write down things that come to your mind but just talk it out as much as you can. Push yourself and think of all those situations where you have felt humiliated, insulted, hurt and helpless and just talk it aloud to someone. I bet it works.

2.Don’t think of the effect….future is as it is uncertain

Thinking too much about future makes the mind restless as it just runs through the same negative thoughts again and again. So guard your mind, stop it there and show it a positive way. Make it think of something you want, like your work, your hobby or anything that makes you happy. Our mind is like a small baby it toys with those ideas which we feed it, so give it the right thing to play with.

3.Hearts don’t understand logic

Hearts don’t understand the analytical part so even if your heart loves someone who has hurt you immensely, accept it. It will take time and don’t try to find answers to illogical questions like “why do i still care for him/her?” or “why am i so concerned about him/her?”.Your heart will never understand these questions so just leave them unanswered….after some days those questions will be for someone else and it will self heal it. Just give yourself time.

4. Sorrow and happiness cannot exist in parallel

Sorrow may come again and again but there is always an option, just draw a line and tell yourself ”ok I am going to cry for the next 10 mins but the 11nth min is for my smile. After ten mins of sorrow, I am going out with my friends for a long drive or going to eat my favourite panner makhani in my favourite restaurant.Drawing a line is making a commitment to yourself that happiness is my first and last priority.

5. Open up or close down

Moving on is not possibly forgetting the past but finding new ways of happiness, so tell your mind that it’s the right time to move on. Life always give us options, it’s the time to choose the right one and to do what makes you really happy.One of my friends is so happy after the breakup as she can now enjoy endless ‘non vegetarian food’ which she craved with her pure vegetarian boyfriend. So open up to the new you and the new happiness you have always wanted.

6. Helping others

Giving is a very nice feeling and it always gives back something. So helping those less fortunate than us always adds a sense of satisfaction and really helps us to come out of that sad world and see the happy one.

The first step of getting what you want is to having the courage to get rid of what you don’t. Life is a celebration and we have to learn to celebrate every moment of it – whether it’s sad or a happy one -.ultimately Life is not how we make it but how we take it. Forget what hurt you in the past but never forget what it taught you.

To start something new one must end something old and when it’s a new beginning it should have ‘Happy Ending’.